I have been wanting to talk about this for very long time and today I just gonna say “F&*k It ” I am talking about this. For those people who are still thinking for their “white man privilege” is made up unicorn hiding in some magical land. Just let you know this is my everyday life because I am a minority woman.
As a female chiropractor, my profession is predominately male, consider more than 70% of chiropractors are men, as a woman in this profession I definitely am part of minority.
Being minority is nothing new to me. I spend 15 years of my life in Iowa, in my high school there are really just hand full of us are non white students. All my 4 years of high school all I want is to blend in and be a good little white girl. I hated my parents for being Chinese and blame them for my so call ” miserable high school life ” now I look back it wasn’t really that bad. Yeah I was bullied in school because I am Chinese. But you see when I was in school there was no social media, Instagram, Facebook , snapchat , etc. So I think the bully is really not as bad as today. Kids use social media to aggressively bully and degrading their classmate, even create Facebook group to pretty much talk someone into killing themselves.
My college is very diverse consider more than 10% of student population is international students, especially from Asia, place like Taiwan, Malaysia, HongKong, and China. All the suddenly I get to be friends with those international students to be more comfortable with my own identity and my culture . Turn out it is pretty cool, we have Super awesome food, interesting performance arts, and let me tell you how hard the Vietnam students know how to party. We are no different than anyone else and we are just as fun and normal as everyone else. Slowly I have become more confident with how I look and how different I am.
When I start working as a junior associate in one of private chiropractic clinics in Hong Kong, some patients actually choose not to be seen by me because they have this misconception of women chiropractors are weak and they are not as good as men. I guess since we are in the Asian countries, I believe many female professionals are facing somewhat of gender discrimination with clients, patients, colleagues,etc. I would want to believe in some situations perhaps clients or patients would prefer women, but of course for the right reason. I can’t deny the reason I look young, if you are an asian you know what I mean, yeah we asians, we don’t die and we don’t age. #truth. So from time to time I try to wear clothes make myself look more….aged and didn’t dye my hair for 2 years, oh my god… that was painful. Even with all this effort aside I am still not as competitive as my colleagues. I guess God just never really gives me a chance. Fine!
Fast forward I have moved on my own insecurity and try not let my male superior and boss to destroy me. Well that was another long and painful process but I am glad it was all behind me now. Maybe that is why I am so bitter ..hmmm.
Now I am an entrepreneur, a mother, a wife, a daughter and a chiropractor. Over the time my role or identity have become…diversified. Now I am facing I believe is an even bigger problem..
What kind of world is my daughter going to up grow up in????
Will the world around her can see her as a human being? Will the world see her without labels, judgement and discrimination? I guess some of you may have followed the case of Dr. Ford Vs. Kavanaugh last time as our beloved supreme leader has appointed Brett Kavanaugh as associate justice of supreme court of United States, a lifetime position he will forever sits his ass on. Dr. Ford’s testimony has impacted all the sexual assault victims out there to speak up, loudly and truthfully, even the entire world denies your words. Even with her career, family, and reputation on the line. The backlash from social media is absolutely disgusting, I still can’t believe people will believe she is doing this because of… you guess it, attention… Well for anyone who has little or no brain, there is hell of way to get attention when you end up losing everything.
So is this kind of world our daughters are going to face?
But look at the other side. Movement starts at turbulence time. We have the more female in the government in the history. More female presidential candidates then ever. Perhaps, it is oppression and denial of our basic human rights force all of us women, mothers, daughters and wives to stand up for the one last fight before we put us forever down. I guess the reality of Giles can’t be far off.
Feminism is NOT about hating man. Yes I do get very pissed off if any man sees me as a piece of ass rather than a real human being. Sadly, this is our lives, at least for some part, it is my life, to be objectified as sexual being, or less equal than a human being with dignity and respect. Will it change? Will the men out there put down their glasses and look at us as equal? Will our boss and business partners who are men value us as equal? Will the society can please drop the double standard toward our mothers? I guess it is up to us to rewrite the history.
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